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3 Ways To Make Sure Your Employees Hate You (or not)

Every once in a while I meet a kindred spirit in the consulting world, Someone who inspires me, and who speaks to the things I’m passionate about.  Josh Patrick is one of those people.  As a business coach and consultant he has a strait forward style that is intriguing and engaging.  Josh is a great writer, who has a wonderful ability to make direct point, while making you laugh at the same time.  I asked him if he’d be willing to write a post for my blog and he graciously accepted.

Managing others is one of the biggest challenges I see leaders face.  In Josh’s article, he shares some great advice on how to shift how you interact with staff and ultimately, alter your experience.  Hope you enjoy.

Warmest, Vicki

There have been thousands of pages written about how to motivate your people.  They range from doing contests to just saying thank-you.  Although these are great things to read about my true belief is that you don’t really ever motivate anyone.  Motivation comes from inside: we motivate ourselves. (more…)

Just Say No!


In the late 1980’s while the controller of an international training company, I had the nickname “Just say NO Vicki Suiter.”  I hated being called that.  It always felt like I was the bad guy.  I was in a tough spot because my job was to control expense and make sure we met our bottom line goal numbers. If revenues were down, my job was to cut costs, and hold the line on spending.  As you can imagine, that didn’t make me very popular. I felt torn between wanting to do a good job and wanting to be liked. (more…)

Letting go of perfection

Is your commitment to perfection keeping you from making progress?

Do any of these sound like something you might do?

You got every penny right on a bid – but it meant the proposal was late, and you lost the opportunity to be awarded the job..

You’ve been working on that client request for referral letter for months, but haven’t sent it out because it’s just not “perfect.”

You were waiting for the perfect time to make that marketing call – but never found one.

Perfection can be debilitating. (more…)

Do What You Love!

My 25 year old son just returned from a 6-month trip to Thailand, where he had a deeply rewarding experience. Now that he’s back in the “real” world, he’s faced with the challenge of finding suitable employment.

“I don’t want to go to work at some dumb job,” he told me.

“Well then, find a smart one” I told him.

He let me know he didn’t appreciate my answer.

The truth is, while I very much wish he’d find something to do, I completely understand his feelings. (more…)

Keeping Our Word

When I was in my mid-twenties I thought I was pretty together. Outwardly it showed this way too. I worked full time as a lending officer at a large bank. I lived in a nice apartment in Los Angeles, and I had lots of friends. But inside I was anxious. I worried a lot, felt overwhelmed a lot of the time. It seemed I was always running behind. Whether it was taking too long to return a phone call, running late for work, or not doing something I had promised, it would weigh on me. I remember driving to work, racing down the freeway, and feeling rushed and hurried.  The conversation in my head would go something like this “Damn, why didn’t I wake up earlier? Why was I always waiting until the last possible second to leave the house? Why aren’t these cars moving faster?” About the moment I would realize I was going to be late, the stories would start to swirl in my head. The stories I would tell when I arrived at work about why I was late. More anxiety – now I have to make up an excuse for why I was late. Over time I could see that people didn’t appreciate, nor even listen to my stories of why I was late, the simple truth was that I was not keeping my word about showing up on time.  All the stories in the world wouldn’t change that.  (more…)

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